So I’m 23 and a half and not married.
Is this bad?
I must’ve missed the memo, but it seems if you are not married by the time you turn 24 you die, (I’d like to imagine by explosion). I say 24, because I’ve now seen a few examples of people, all 23, that have gotten engaged fairly quickly. I’m talking after dating for a month or less. I’m sorry but that does not a strong relationship make. May they work out? Absolutely. Is it still ridiculous? Absolutely.
Now let me clarify it’s not the age but the speed. I’ve gone to 2 weddings now, both cases they were 23, and know others who were engaged earlier. The difference is these people dated for years… Not a few weeks.
I also can’t help but notice in one case the 2 were friends for a long time, (but friendship is not dating) and in another the two go back to the High School days. So it seems after you realize “Oh hell, Im 23 and not married” you best grab the closest single person! No time to find someone new, go with a safe choice! It must be a combo of passion and desperation.
The latter is sad, but the former is just a bit less sad…Passion is great, and I’ll admit maybe I’m too cold, too thoughtful and meticulous…but you can’t make such a huge life choice on passion. The most extreme example I know is: one night. That’s right, one night, then BOOM! “will you marry me?”
It has to be passion and desperation.
So that’s that
Now, I need to get myself out there. I’m sick of being alone, it’s gotten bad enough I look at pictures on FB and think “god I wish I could just ask them out”. So yeah, I need to get in the game, but I also know if I am not yet married when I turn 24…well guess I’ll be in pieces all over the place.